My problem is that I’m a very social being. I want to see you, so if you invite me out I’m not likely to counter with, “Let’s stay in!” I like to go out and still have a rather childish dread of being seen as a boring homebody.
This got me in trouble this week :
I had budgeted for one event that I had planned, forgotten about another planned event so didn’t budget for it, had a friend ask if I could meet for a catch up at our favourite restaurant, and invited a friend out for drinks thinking that I had over-budgeted for the event I had recalled.
Poor planning but here’s how it all worked out:
The forgotten event came first and took longer than anticipated so I ate there and the entire budget line plus some for weekly entertainment was used
I was too exhausted to attend the one I had planned for so I canceled.
Knowing that I didn’t have a budget to go to the restaurant I asked if she’d like to come over for cake and tea. I made a few mini cakes using ingredients I had in the house and we had a great visit. Bonus: my neighbour and colleagues also got cake.
I called the person I was supposed to meet for drinks and invited her over rather than going out. She postponed until next week.
I feel anxious and cheap when I don’t want to meet my friends at restaurants or such because it’s not in the budget and I’ve already used my additional funds. When I write it all out it seems that I’m handling it well so I really need to end how I feel.
Any tips on getting over this hurdle?